The Solitude or Loneliness

Well, really don’t know how to begin this one. I have been a regular subscriber of Lotus Tarot for the weekly interpretations of cards they send. It had almost been a year or so but today, the interpretation I received left me pondering. The subject said, ‘Solitude Vs Loneliness’.

Ah, this moment I remembered a poem we read in standard nine, ‘The Solitary Reaper’ by Sir William Wordsworth.

A couplet in the poem is

‘Alone she cuts and binds the grain,
And sings a melancholy strain;’

There was a question in the exercise that asked why the reaper was singing a melancholic song. To this, the answer our teacher gave was, ‘it is human nature to feel connected and get affected by things that are sad.’
Honestly, I just mugged up that answer to produce it the same in the examination without understanding the deep thoughts behind it. To me loneliness and solitude held no difference all these years. Thankfully, I understand the distinction now.

This is what I received from Lotus Tarot today.

“Solitude is something you WANT and feel comfortable with, a peaceful, relaxing and inspirational space, and loneliness is an UNWANTED experience of being on your own.”

To me, loneliness is a state of being separated from the outer world mentally while solitude is a state of being connected to oneself. Solitude is desirable while loneliness is feared. Loneliness fills one with an empty feeling while solitude is a way to introspect and fill that emptiness. One can be in solitude when alone, yet lonely in a crowd. So complex are human emotions and situations. It is too philosophical, right buddy? 

What makes me think profoundly is the fear of being lonely. We humans have a tendency to turn the time of solitude into loneliness and then search for an escape. I ask, how many times a day and for how many minutes or hours, do you sit, recollect and analyze your words,thoughts and actions buddy? Perhaps not at all or only a few moments, so busy we are with our Smartphone. The loneliness we feel without friends or a  lover make us enter into unfulfilling relationships and repent them later. I have personally known people who just could not bear living alone and enter into a relation with whoever they could find. This is a pitfall we dig for ourselves. 
One of my friends after his break-up, felt like he was in love with his best friend. This confession spoiled his friendship and later the realization of him being in the rebound phase of the relationship dawned upon. He not only lost his love but also a great friend. 

There are many such examples, I am sure you too can find around buddy.

Why are we so impatient? The next time when you feel alone, pen down the feelings, you would be astonished to see yourself write something awesome. Introspect, read or engage yourself in something constructive. Being with people is not the solution, for our world, our people should be found patiently buddy.

I would again repeat the lyrics of one of my favorites from Guns and Roses,

'Things will be just fine,

You and I will just use a little patience'.
Turn your loneliness into solitude not solitude to loneliness buddy, and for this all you need is just a little patience.

MOVE ON - A Simple Thing Yet Exaggerated

Hey buddy, long time!! Well these days, a lot have been happening in my life. Got placed (well placement stories will come up soon) and then had the opportunity to meet and know new people who are my motivation to write this post today. 
A single person whom I came to know has made me wonder how badly we humans can turn solitude into loneliness. How badly we can make the simple word, “move on” the hardest thing in the world to do. 
Why do we dwell in the past? Life is not that complicated, buddy; yet we make it one. 

That person made me think hard. I got deeply involved into his story, his pain and started living amid hallucinations. I found myself in sheer agony; the wounds I thought have healed, emerged again, laying bare all the secrets. I thought I had moved on. Was I wrong then, I wondered. Certain realizations dawned upon; life is indeed a relational algebra and perhaps that is why we study mathematics!!

Life is an echo of your own voice, a reflection of your own thoughts and an outcome of your own choice. Past is past, whether it has been happy or sad it is just a memory in the present. We don’t need to move on; all we need is let life move on. We need to let life take its flow, without hindering its path, remembering well that swimming downstream is easier than moving upstream. It is we who hold on to the past and not the past that engulfs us. Life always moves on that is why we always have a new present, and a new future.

I have heard people say your present, your future all depends on the past and you can’t just run away from it. Well, they are only partially correct. They do depend on the past; not on the happenings but the lessons learnt from it. You can’t just run away from it; if you do, you are running away from important lessons, buddy. Life is moving, life is dynamic and thus we hold no authority to stop at a moment and suffocate it.

It is rightly said, “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain”.
Get up and move on, it is an awesome weather buddy!!

SPARE ME THE ARROW, CUPID

Well, I believe love is more than just what cooks between a boy and a girl; but inspired by few heart-broken lovers I came up with this poetry..  

Oh dear lover,

There is nothing that love can give,

Just intolerable pain not letting you sleep.

It’s like a thunder bringing utter flood not just rain,

Smashing all on which it fall,

Leaving one with nothing at all,

When seize to exist, you would twirl in pain

Hands wounded, homes destroyed,

You try to rebuild, but in vain.

It leaves the lover searching for his own identity,

Pulling him close towards insanity.

Between two lives he would live each day,

One too strong, too bold,

The other staining the pillows, longing for a hand to hold.

Love can only leave wounded souls hovering around,

Turning life imperfect, which at a time was perfectly sound.

It is nothing but a heinous play,

Leaving the players crying all night, all day.

This devil acts too innocent in the start,

The violin sound, the ringing bells,

But when abandons you; tears everything apart.

Leaves you with a feeling of being at hell,

The beautiful sounds you heard turn into a cacophony.

Love is no sweet; it gives nothing but agony.

Oh dear lover, I warn you not to tread this path,

It would bruise your soul not just break the heart,

The heart can be mended but not the soul,

A hurt soul surpasses the meaning of human as a whole.

I repeat, there is nothing that love can give.

Just intolerable pain not letting you sleep!!!!

The Effects of Social Networking upon Society

The Effects of Social Networking upon Society

This article is exactly what I intend to convey.. Do have a look buddy...

LIVE ORIGINAL - LET THE PASSION BE

Ah, so we all have been running since last few days. Not literally, but mentally. Qualifying for the interviews of big companies, rejections and then again beginning from the scratch in hope to qualify for the next ones. That’s all what life has become now for almost every unplaced student in colleges.

I have been pushing my body too hard to complete all the work and mind to stay away from writing, music and concentrate only on studies. Alas, but I feel numb today. Today, I have been wondering what this race is all about. We all are different people having different aspirations yet participants of the same race. It seems so illogical to me. Of course, I understand “if passion is living, money is livelihood” (well, I give credits to Shivee for this punch line). But I ask how long will you suppress that desire of living in hope of earning a livelihood? 

It has been four days and I feel an uncontrollable urge to write. Have you been trying to keep yourself away from something you like for the namesake of work? If yes, let yourself free, go live buddy. It will indeed fill you with renewed energy helping carrying the workload further.

I absolutely love the last line of the movie ‘Switch’ where the actor says, ‘Sometimes we must realize that Human Race isn’t a race at all’.


Whatever you wish for is going to make its way to you, have patience.

For Guns n Roses have said it right,

“Said, woman, take it slow
it’ll work itself out fine
all we need is just a little patience
Said, sugar, make it slow
And things will be just fine

All we need is just a little patience”.

Have patience buddy, good things will come, but don’t let the original you die!

AN ADDICT - The Victim of the Virtual World

Today has been inexpressible. A sudden realization that I have been a victim of this virtual world kept haunting me throughout. NO, it’s not my account that has been hacked but my real life that has been compromised. I remembered once I attended a hacking seminar at my college; where the mentor asked how many of you have been hacked in some way or the other and only few people raised their hands. And then he said the rest of you don’t even know that your accounts or systems have been affected at some point!

That was me, ignorant, unaware; yet a victim. Alas, but real life doesn't comes with a format, scan or repair option. 

You think I am joking? Then I shall tell you a few scenarios.

How many times we ask our friends to check our latest photos and the ones, who don’t check out on them, are the ones declared as haters or jealous. If you are a girl, you know that I am not lying. Our pictures popularity makes us feel like a queen indeed. But think is that’s what beauty is? I thought it was skin deep!!!

It was hard, very tough indeed to decide to quit all kinds of social networking, I am not naming any, so don’t sue me for this one!!! I shall now stop talking in general terms and tell you how my real life account has been affected with digital virus.

I had been one of those girls who became happy enough to add all the family members in their social networking circle. As a Result, relatives stopped calling and started in-boxing. My welfare became my updates and photographs. I was assumed to be fit and fine if I fake so in them. Reuniting with old friends became forming groups or circles and chatting. Relationship has become chatting, messaging or voice calling using some applications. Sometimes, I and my friends would sit and just talk on the sites even though we could have come out of our hostel rooms and talked in the fresh air. I don’t know how many birthdays and anniversaries I will forget now when I have left these sites. I don’t know how many wishes would I have got if I wouldn't have been active earlier on them.

Any sadness, happiness or an event of life became worth updating before worth remembering and preserving them in heart. I feel emotionally blank, uncomfortably numb today. I assumed emotions to be updates. I updated and forgot. Real tears were replaced by the digital ones, alas; I don’t remember the last time I actually talked to a friend about a problem meeting him personally instead of chatting. I didn't know when a dedicated poetry became a photograph caption. General knowledge meant liking the pages, and reading the updates instead of voracious reading in real life.

Oh, yes, I have been an addict. And you think, this is not the case with you? Just leave the network few days before your birthday or on the day when you are upset, and see yourself facing the turmoil I have been mentioning throughout the post.

May be I would have lesser talks with my old friends now, but when we will connect on telephone or meet in real that would be emotionally satisfactory. I will feel the love in their voice and could see their expressions rather than the smileys.I would actually get to know my real and digital friends now.I would even get more time for some fruitful work. My back and hand would stop paining, eyes hurting and I would be left with an ample amount of time to relive the real old golden days rather than the text someone typed and sent on the network. Photographs would again mean memories to be preserved and not something to boast about.

The very reason of so much betrayal, in relationships today is digitization. Artificial intelligence is yet not so intelligent to capture the human emotions. They say eyes speak about your heart, I ask could you see them over the internet?

I feel awesome to get back to my life!!! May be I am not totally correct and some of the things don’t hold true for you, but one of them will, today or tomorrow. You too know I have made a valid point. Sit, think, what your life will be without networking and android, after all they are luxuries not necessity!
Get back your life, buddy. I have already started singing,” Jeene lagi hun pehle se jyada(I feel livelier than before)”!!!!

BEING YOURSELF

While browsing through YouTube today, I just happened to click on an old classmate’s advertisement.People in the ad kept telling the children that they would be the next Einstein, Kishore, Obama,  Michael Jackson etc. And the children plead, ‘Instead of being the next somebody can I please be the first me?’

How true indeed, we spent almost all of our life trying to be like someone. We try imitating our role models, or just try to become what others want us to be like. Satisfying others, we lose ourselves in the process. We forget that life is not a struggle of creating self but a beautiful challenge to find the self hidden within. 

We humans are called so, because we are the ones with intellect and power of rational thinking on the planet. I ask where that power of your's go; when you try to please others by losing a part of yourself. There is a beautiful song, ‘When I’m Gone’ from one of my favorite bands 3 Doors Down, where a line says ‘Part of me is fighting this, but part of me is gone’. I second that. We have already lost a part of ourselves trying to be a part of the ‘be someone‘ race. But don’t lose the rest of you buddy.

Sit, remember, introspect what you wished to be and what have you become.Definitely,you are going to find huge differences.

 I would repeat the same words that can be found everywhere on the internet. Don’t try to please others, your people would come to you and stay without asking you to change a bit.

I am definitely going to be the first me, the first SR. Would you too join me in the journey??

Have a look, at this beautiful ad, it's inspiring buddy!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhCk57UmE6o